I posted this on my Instagram page (@_thejblife) a few hours ago. It hit me in my soul as I thought about how it applied to my 2017 this year.
One of the things that is confusing about being a twenty-something is navigating relationships. I’m not just talking romantic ones either. Friendships, family dynamics, there’s so many levels to this. More often than not, it seems like all the lines blur together. Then you look up and you wonder, what is life?! (That’s the best way I can describe it)
Simultaneously, I’m still figuring out this new person that has been developing. Her hopes, dreams, ambitions, fears and overall place in this world. In doing so, I’ve found that I don’t relate to certain people in the same ways anymore. My ideas about the world around me have changed from let’s say 10 years ago. Even five, maybe less actually. So, throughout the year I had to slowly begin removing chairs from the table.
Which by the way, is easier said than done. We all want to feel like we belong somewhere, like we’re apart of something. But, if those associations threaten your growth and forward progress, let them go.
It was scary and uncomfortable. It forced me to get real about my life and what I wanted out of it. I had to face some hard truths about people I really loved and respected for a long time. It doesn’t make them bad people either. I just know now that there are certain spaces they can’t occupy in my life anymore.
The twist? Removing chairs from the table also means that sometime you have to sit alone. Not everyone is authorized to go where you’re headed. I had to learn to be ok with that as well.
Side note, I’m still in progress. I don’t have all the answers. But, as I continue to get comfortable in my skin, I’m slowly but surely finding the right answers for me. What I’ve learned this year is that whether the seats at my table are empty or full, I’m enough.